Resources

Welcome to our resources page.  Here you will find a variety of resources to support your journey and practice of grief. This list is ever-changing as we discover new inspirations. We encourage you to be tender with yourself when exploring resources.  Depending on where we are in our grief experience, resources can be helpful, inspiring and life-changing, but at times they be overwhelming, activating and exhausting.  Take a breath and tune into what feels most supportive to you in the moment.  This list is not going anywhere so take your time.

BOOKS

Books we LOVE.  

Love Notes to Grievers

This heartfelt book by our dear friend Angela Morris is summed up perfectly in the title - 'love notes.' Originally notes she wrote these messages to herself during the first year of deep grief, and later decided to share her reflections with others - and wow - we are so grateful!  We love this book because it is easily digestible.  You can take it in slowly, one page at a time, or breeze through all in one sitting.  You can pick up this book in TGW shop or visit Angela's website to learn more about her and her writing  ANGELA E MORRIS 

After Your Person Dies

"After Your Person Dies; Affirmations for Grief, Meaning Making, and Going On", is written and illustrated by  Dr. Linda Shanti McCabe. We met Linda when she submitted a piece of art to TGW Community Art Initiative.  When we discovered that she had created this gorgeous book we were felt called to do what we could to place this book into the hands of the bereaved.  This book features the art and affirmations that Linda created in the first year after her husband's death.  We love this book because it embraces the wild side of being human in this practice of grief, and guides readers to consider how to carry their grief with grace.  You can pick up a copy of "After Your Person Dies" in TGW shop.

Prayers of Honouring Grief

Written by Pixie Lighthorse, this book is a treasure - one that lives on our coffee tables!  A book of guidance organized by season, the themes are relatable and nourishing, honouring the mystery that is around every corner along this journey of being human.

Fresh Paint

Created by Flora Bowley & Lynzee Lynx, Fresh Paint is a beautiful collection of prompts and inspiration to discover and tease out your own unique creative style through the creation of 100 mixed - media paintings.  The invitations are endless as you explore the gorgeous pages of this book - exploring through movement, intuition, body wisdom, individual preference, ancestry, and past experience.  We have found so much inspiration through this process and are so grateful to have this guide. The creative process is a valued tool for our grief explorations and we invite you to step into this endless territory of curiosity. 

Heartbreak, A Personal + Scientific Journey.

Florence Williams writes about grief, heartbreak and loss in this beautiful memoir about her experience of the loss of a marriage through divorce and the journey to find herself, explore her heartbreak and everything in between. A deeply relatable share about the human experience of grief written by a scientist, who's mind drips with curiosity and wonder.  

Bittersweet, How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole. 

Susan Cain, has given us another gift in Bittersweet. The reminder of being human and the deeply bittersweet experience it truly is to be alive, and how our culture has been so blind to the value and depth of living lives swimming in the ocean of  a melancholy outlook. This book made us feel so seen! 

Atlas of The Heart

Brené Brown  Most of us know her and love her. She has brought us so many gifts in the form of her books, her talks and her amazing podcasts. Atlas of the Heart is no disappointment. As lovers of language, Atlas of the Heart spoke to us in so many ways. This is a beautiful resource, a map of emotions, and a lot of clearing up confusion about what certain words/emotions actually mean!  Well researched, and articulated this will remain a permanent fixture on our coffee tables. 

Love and Salt Air

Lisa Hartley  is a wonderful human who works as a celebrant, officiating  life's celebrations, transitions and goodbyes with a huge heart.  This year Lisa released her first book, Love and Salt Air, the story of Lisa's experience of  her mother's death to stomach cancer.  Willow read this book in one sitting, tears streaming down her face and her heart exploding at the grace, gentleness and love that pours out through Lisa's sharing. This beautiful book is for anyone who has gone through the loss of a loved one, or anyone facing this reality currently. Lisa shares her knowledge gained from her years as a celebrant and the love and connection that is found when we approach these life experiences with an openness and the courage of wonder.  

PODCASTS

There are SO many podcasts out there today! We will start out with a few we enjoy and add more as we discover.

Grief Out Loud

Have you ever felt dismissed when you talk about grief?  Discomfort rising in another leading people to change the subject or excuse themselves from the conversation? Perhaps you have even cleared a room?  Well no need to worry about scaring host Jana DeCristofaro away.  Produced by The Dougy Center, Grief Out Loud is creating space for this often avoided conversation because grief is hard enough without having to go through it alone.  Grief Out Loud brings you a mix of personal stories, tips for supporting children, teens, and yourself as well as interviews with professionals.  Platitude and cliché-free, we promise!

Griefcast

We LOVE this podcast because it brings HUMOR to this grief space, we can all benefit from humor. Hosted by Cariad Lloyd, each week features a conversation with a different comic guest about their experiences of grief. In conversation, Cariad and guests they share their views on the pain, loss and the weirdness that happens when someone dies.

Everything Happens with Kate Bowler

Life isn't always bright and shiny, as Kate Bowler knows. In, warm, insightful, often funny conversations, Kate talks with people about what they have learned in dark times. Kate teaches at Duke Divinity school and is the author of Everything Happens for a Reason (And Other Lies I've Loved) and No Cure for Being Human (And Other Truths I need to Hear). 

This podcast will make you laugh, cry, wonder and feel seen as the human you are. 

ARTICLES

Below is a list of articles we find useful.

Estrangement Grief

Grieving in the Age of Estrangement and Division- Written by Emily Palmer

Click on the title to read this impactful article.  When Tracy sent me (Willow) this article It opened something in me, I felt seen.  This is the power of sharing our experiences in action. I will forever be grateful to Emily for writing this piece and offering a new lens to see my grief through. 

Angela E. Morris Blog

One of our favorite writers on grief is Angela E. Morris. She writes regular articles about all things grief, the nuances, her personal reflections on her lived experiences and wonderings. Check out her 

blog here.  Her most recent piece on Ring Theory, a wonderful approach to how to show up for your loved ones who are grieving. 

ORGANIZATIONS, PEOPLE & WEBSITES

Below is an expanding offering of folks and organizations that normalize grief through love and witnessing.

Artist Literacy Institute -This incredible organization has many projects and incredible resourcing for artists! 

The Grief Deck Projects are an original resource, featuring two decks; one for adults and one for youth. Decks are available for purchase and you can access a free online deck that is continuously growing.

The cards feature an image created by an artist and a prompt for exploring grief practice and support.  The Artists’ Grief Deck is an outcome of ALI’s work with the NYC Voluntary Organizations Active in Disaster (NYCVOAD) beginning in the early Spring of 2020 when Covid-19 hit the US. It was produced in collaboration with artist Adriene Jenik, and the project was completed in partnership with the National Hospice Cooperative.
 
Click on following links for more information and exploration:

ONLINE GRIEF DECK
YOUTH GRIEF DECK

Be Ceremonial Our Dear Friend Megan Sheldon and her husband Johan Hoglund, at Be Ceremonial have created a user friendly platform that empowers users with a framework to follow, inspire and support accessibility to crafting our own universal rituals and ceremony to mark just about any transition we travel through in life.  New rituals and ceremonies are added frequently and there is an ever growing collection of real life stories from folks who use this offering personally and professionally. Ritual and ceremony can support us as to engage with grief.  The simplicity of offering ourselves ritual and ceremony allows us to intentionally engage in order to discover meaning through times of transition. 

Shauna Janz MA, Grief & Resiliency- offering education, facilitation and mentorship. 

Embodied Grief, Clea Jonquil Hargreaves, MAS, E-RYT-500+, Archivist, Grief Counsellor, Movement Instructor, Trauma Informed.

With Love Grief Gifts  Beautifully curated gift boxes to specifically support children and teens. Our youth grieve differently, and support for them is often overlooked, or not offered because the adults in their lives don't know how. With supportive resources and curated or a la carte offerings, we just love what the women of With love are doing. 

Guidance on Writing a Sympathy Card

Showing up can feel hard. We want to say and do all the right things. Below we share some word of guidance and some words you might use.  

1. Not knowing how to show up is okay, naming this for yourself and your people can be a helpful experience for everyone.

2.  Drop the need for perfection, there is no ideal way.  We are all human and grief is messy, what matters most is that you lead with love.

3.  Your presence is gold.  It’s not so much about doing something, rather being a presence that holds space with compassion.

 

4.  Do not attempt to fix anything.  Nothing is broken - grief is the natural human reaction to losing something or someone you love. 

 

5.  Stay present and honest, for example: “I don't know what to say, but I know this sucks / hurts / etc. I love you and I am here.”

 

6.  Stay strong on your seat of witness, be attentive to their pain, however it shows up.  Encourage them that whatever arises is normal and true for them.  You may do grief differently - we all do!

 

7.  If you are supporting someone who is grieving a death, talk about the person / pet who died.  Don’t worry about making the person sad, they are already sad.  Reminisce about personality traits or fond memories of their person / pet.  Connection makes things better.

 

8.  Remember that this is their experience and that your role is to support.  If your grief becomes activated, find a separate supportive space; another human, a journal, a counselor, or any activity that supports you in your grief expression and practice.

Below are some words to inspire your empathy message.  Honour your voice and consider using language that feels natural to you.

 

“This is a tough time, I want you to know, I see you, I hear you, and I accept you as you are.”

 

“I am here for you / I am here with you.”

 

“You are not alone.”

 

“Feel what you need to, I’ll be here.”

 

“This is so fucking unfair.”

 

“I don’t know how this feels and I wish things were easier.  Know that I am here to listen.”

 

“I accept you right where you are in this moment.”